Surrender Podcast Series - Dissolving the masks

Dissolving the masks of masculine programming

With Ben Bidwell

Welcome to another episode of the Soul Surgery podcast and our Surrender Series where I dive deeply into my guests’ greatest points of surrender.

This week I am joined by the wonderfully wise Ben Bidwell. Ben is a mindset and purpose coach, a writer and public speaker. His purpose in this world is to open up and strip back the conversation around mental health and release the stigma that still exists here.

Ben is on a journey to dissolve the story around what it means to be a man in this world. He shares how in service of his truth and authenticity he had to surrender the ideas, pictures, conditioning and stories that he had absorbed around what it means to be a man.

Ben courageously faced judgements and losing friends as he learned to truly let go and trust. He came to realise that this was in fact a way to connect with people on a much deeper level.

Make sure to share your biggest takeaways and aha moments in the comments.

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  • When we live our lives trying not to be a certain way what we are creating is a huge amount of resistance which blocks us from being our authentic selves.
  • Conditioning can become stronger and have more of an influence over how we live than what feels natural and this causes huge confusion.
  • It can feel easy to stay stuck in our way of being, despite the suffering it causes, it feels familiar and safe. But we will get to a point where the discomfort of staying the same is worse than the discomfort of changing.
  • To truly become free we have to let go of everything – the stories, conditioning and who we have known ourselves to be.
  • Our most important relationship is the one we have with ourself.